I didn't get to watch the video in its entirety because I'm borrowing Wi-Fi but I saw enough to make a comment or two or 15.

First comment deals with white women getting married sooner than black women.

So from observations we see that white women get married sooner than black women. Statistic prove that be true also. I was looking to see what the divorce rate is though. Granted it would be higher if more whites get married than blacks but relatively speaking I'd like to know.

From my observations though it seems like they get married too soon and get divorced or "separate" some time later. That's just my observation. I'm still looking for statistics to see if that's true.

However it seems to be true across the board with a lot of races but blacks & whites in particular. What it come down to is individuals not having the first idea what a successful relationship involves so you really can't trust them to make a marriage last!

Women in general are living in this Barbie fantasy wedding dream-world where there's a prince charming who does everything to her liking and all this UNREALISTIC garbage of what a man should be and how a marriage will be. Actually I don't think they consider marriage. It's the wedding they're thinking about.

Everyday should be like a wedding day (THEY THINK) with flowers and everyone focusing on me and dancing and music and all that other special DAY type ish. Be serious! There will be special aww that's so sweet moments in marriage but most of the time you'll just be sitting on the couch watching old episodes of Martin. You don't have to ALWAYS be doing something to have a happy marriage. If you can't sit down and just be silent and be comfortable with a guy NOT feeling like you have to impress him 24/7 you all shouldn't be together.

If you don't know this person INTIMATELY and by INTIMATELY I don't mean you all had sex I mean you know why they do what they do and how they do it, AND it annoys you BUT you accept it because you love them as a person you all shouldn't be together.

Instead of finding someone who'll sweep you off your feet you need to just be with someone you can call your friend. Someone that respects you IN SPITE OF because they know you've got a heart of gold.

And that person may not have a college degree or a high school diploma. They may not be able to dress and they may have a child or CHILDREN. They may not make more money than you. They might not be black or not physically what you usually go for. But if you find someone that understands you & makes you feel good about yourself and you enjoy their presence THAT'S WHO YOU SHOULD MARRY!

Honestly I don't think you should marry someone you're not physically attracted to because that's just opening up the door to creeping out BUT if they're attractive but "not your type" physically you need to grow up! This isn't preschool. You can have a favorite crayon but you're going to have to use more than orange or green to color a pretty picture.

THEN MEN! I don't think most of you want to get married but you just do it to make a woman happy. But that's my stereotype. I see some of you actually want to settle down and get married and have children. You all are actually more realistic when it comes to what a marriage is. Seeing it more as a business deal than a fairy tale. BUT the problem is you all aren't being completely honest with women.

You're not seeing us as what we are. Highly emotional & irrational imaginative beings. We don't think like you all think. If you sleep with me & I like you TRUST I'm already thinking about marriage. Not that we'll admit that but we're thinking it. It's flashing through our heads the "what ifs and where ats? and how manys?. And we know that's a slightly off way of thinking but that's just how we are. Even though we rationally know we're more NOT than likely going to marry you. BUT just in case we go out of our way to make sure you keep us IN MIND in case you happen to want to get married to someone. Acting like a wife with no papers. AND by doing that we really don't give you the opportunity to know if you really like us or if you like what we do for you.

Actually you know if you do like us but you're not as mean as we'd like to think you all are so you're not going to outright say "I'm interested" especially if you're still getting something out of the relationship (sex, dinner, sex, eye candy, sex) ya know what I mean.

I could go on and on BUT I'm gonna stop. So much I could say

Look at it this way. We (both sexes) are looking at the other ex through the eyes of OUR respective sex. I can't expect a man to think like a woman and a man can't expect a woman to think like a man.

If you want a successful relationship and that's with ANYONE you're going to have to start seeing things from their perspective.

SUMMED UP: Women STOP GIVING so much to a man that's not your husband and

i agree with most of what has been said. that was a very good piece on Nightline but i wish they would have interviewed/talked to some black men. i don't see what is wrong with the woman who wanted a man to be over 6ft ? black women will need to consider other black men from countries like nigeria, ghana, morocco or carribean. maybe, even some of the european /or asian countries. nightline did the statistics to show that if all black men did marry black women it would still be one out of twelve women without a man or 54 percent black men available. what is strange is how black men accept nonblack women without education, looks, morals but when black men are broke or straight out of jail they really want a Srong black woman.

When your standards become too high, the "pickings" become too slim as a natural result. Lower the standards and the pickings will increase.

Cause and effect.